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E.L. Zeitgeist's avatar

I can tell how difficult this was. Your beautiful eulogy gives your friend a kind of life-extension. But also gives solace to those of us who have walked in similar shoes. My dad and I had a strange exchange one day at a store where he worked. He acted as if he barely recognized me. I was so angry when I walked out. Days later, he took his life. So much like you described, I've replayed that scene in my head for the last two decades. Is there something I could've done or said if I had truly looked that day? Or was his mind already made up? Along my journey, I chose to live a positive and creative life both despite his absence, but also because of that absence. We can live for the ones who fell. Thank you for mustering up the strength to share this with us. Another step toward light in the darkness, beauty amongst the thorns.

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Barri Grant's avatar

Thank you for sharing this with me. Your words are heart achingly beautiful and raw. We need to talk more about grief and death so that it is easier for the next person, for us all. I am sorry you lost a friend. I am glad you got this all on the page.

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